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By Janet Bush Dear Doctor Single, I have a close friend who keeps choosing losers for boyfriends. This would be one thing if she was 18, but she’s almost 30! She just doesn’t seem to see them the way I and just about everyone else does. After awhile, the relationship cools off and in no time at all she’s with the next one. Some can’t even hold down a decent job and most are into drugs and/or alcohol. So, why am I writing? Because I don’t know what I can say to her to understand that if she ever wants to find someone to settle down with, she better start changing the way she acts to attract these guys in the first place. What should I do? I’m afraid if I do say something, it will offend her and only make her cling more tightly to one of these men. She’s been my best friend for 10 years and I love her dearly and also don’t want to jeopardize our friendship. Trying to Be a Good Friend Dear ‘Trying to Be a Good Friend’, It sounds like you really want to help your friend get straightened out and that you have her best interests at heart. While these are all traits of being a good friend, the way you handle this delicate situation could make or break your friendship, as you suggest. There is a definite balance here and middle ground may be the safest and, in the long run, most effective approach. Taking the easy way out and watching her repeatedly get hurt from the sidelines is no more helpful than trying to control the situation and jeopardizing a friendship (unless, of course, thee are signs of physical abuse; then you should intervene immediately). Don’t underestimate the influence of you being there for her when she gets dumped or does the dumping and sees the light. Your friendship is one of the best ways you can lend support and, indirectly, show her by example the meaning of a solid, secure relationship, even though it’s not a romantic one. If you want to be a bit more bold, consider playing matchmaker, perhaps in a lowkey indirect way. Introduce her to someone you think she might click with. Another idea is to encourage her to pursue one of her hobbies, knowing that if she ends up joining a club or even an online chat group about the topic that the door is open to her meeting others that share her interest. Have you thrown a big party lately? There are increased opportunities in numbers! It is also possible that your friend would benefit from some counseling, particularly if she has some important unresolved issues that need to be dealt with. But, tread lightly here; it may not be wise for you to do the suggesting (unless your friend becomes extremely unstable and you believe she may hurt herself). An exception might be if you’ve personally benefited from counseling or are seeing a professional now; talking with her about how it’s helped you may indirectly encourage her to seek similar assistance. To your friendship! Doctor Single Do you have a question you’d like to ask Doctor Single? Do you want to read and comment on hundreds of interesting and thought provoking articles on dating, love and relationships? Log onto http://www.DoctorSingle.com today, your portal to a new way of thinking about love and relationships aimed at professional singles. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Janet_Bush http://EzineArticles.com/?Her-Friend-Keeps-Choosing-Loser-Boyfriends!&id=267422 ambien online without prescription ambien online ordering buy ambien 10mg dnipnet online online ambien zolpidem

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